The Suzuki Cup: Laser Warfare? What Say You Julia Perez?

Football is important! In fact, to some it is so important that they are prepared to do whatever it takes to secure a victory for their side of choice. The extremes that some are willing to go crosses the line of fairness, sportsmanship, and fair play. One such instance is the recent Asian Football Federation Suzuki Cup Final (First Leg) between Indonesia and Malaysia.

This game was played in Kuala Lumpur. Malaysia beat Indonesia 3-0. It is always a good thing to give credit where credit is due. However, if one side benefits from less than sporting assistance from their fans is credit really due?

Malaysian fans were permitted to brig laser pens into the stadium where the game was played. The fans wasted no time in making use of these lasers by shining them at, and into the eyes, of Indonesian players. To say it is distracting is an understatement. It is dangerous. If these people were to shine these lasers at aircraft they would be arrested and charged with serious criminal offenses, perhaps even terrorism. They are an embarrassment to themselves and their country. Is it cheating?

Soccer is just a game. It is great that people are passionate about their sport and the teams that they follow. It is, however, just a game.

However, the response from Julia Perez takes the cake. I am not a fan of her singing or her dancing, but I am a fan of her ability to take what skills, and "attributes", she does have and turn them into a successful career as an entertainer and one-time political candidate.

Perez reckons that there is no need for lasers in the return leg. Rather she is going to dazzle and blind the Malaysian team with her most ample of assets, her breasts. Apparently, stripping down to her bra and knickers is probably enough. Although, I would hazard a guess that a die-hard fan like Ms. Perez might be willing to go the full monty and give her Malaysian fans a full-frontal show if it meant Indonesia winning 4-0 and taking the Suzuki Cup.

Better still though would be a bra and panties-clad Perez will strategically placed lasers that she could direct at those Malaysian footballers staring at her naughty bits, where they would not only get an eye-full of what they were expecting, but also an eye-full of very bright, and distracting, red light!

Viva Julia Perez and Viva Indonesian football!

Tiger Woods & Elin Nordegren -- The 100 Million Dollar Divorce...

Tiger Woods is getting out of his marriage cheaply. Earlier reports that Elin Nordegren was set to agree to a USD 750 million divorce deal have apparently been far-fetched, or too good to be true for Ms. Nordegren, as it is now being reported that she is going to settle for USD 100 million.

Now, truth be told, this is still better than a poke in the eye with a burnt stick. However, it is no where near half of what the golfer is worth!

Although, it would seem that the quoted USD 100 million is the low end of the spectrum because it does not include any child support payments. I would be guessing that over the years, child support payments are going to see Tiger Woods parting with a considerable chunk of his fortune. Nevertheless, one must assume that married or not, he would presumably parted with that anyways.

I would also imagine that there are plenty of blokes out there in the real world thinking, "Tiger, WTF were you thinking?". Truth be told, my personal opinion is that, she deserves more, much more.

Hopefully, once the divorce is finalised everyone involved in this episode can move on.

Anang Hermansyah & Krisdayanti -- A Divorce Album?

There are probably stranger things that have been done in the aftermath of a divorce, but this is an interesting way to grind the axe. Anang Hermansyah, the loving ex-husband of Krisdayanti, has decided to dedicate his next 'mini' album to his former wife of 13 years. I have not heard it, and more to the point, and I am unlikely to buy it. But, it does sound like it is going to be a little melancholic to say the least.

The album supposedly tells the whole story of the sordid affair(s) that led to the divorce. All the songs are about KD and explain how Anang feels he has lost half his soul and his soul mate. I am guessing that KD does not feel the same. This is especially so since she has supposedly filed for divorce on numerous previous occasions, presumably each time after an affair.

The straw that broke the camel's back was the latest roll in the hay with a rich Timor Leste businessman. Allegedly the other party in this is Rahul Cortez.

However, the icing on the cake in this soon to be really messy divorce is that her kids accompanied dad in promoting the album and Titania Auriel Hermansyah has supposedly said the following:

“Mimi [Mom] loves to compare [our lifestyle] with [those of] her rich friends,” and

“She loves to say bad things about Dad in front of other people. We want [Dad] to find a better [mother for us].”

This is an ouch moment if I have ever seen one.

Yet, this is interesting as it had been reported that they had amassed quite a fortune over their 13-year marriage. So, it seems strange that there is any talk about financial matters. In any event, the divorce could become quite a circus as it winds through the Religious Courts.

Divorce is surely not fun, but I am not sure that I would be making a mini album or going quite so public. Then again, I cannot sing and I am not a public figure.

Krisdayanti & Anang -- To Divorce After Ramadan

A brief update.

Maybe I will have to become a celebrity blogger and see if I can become the next Perez Hilton or something of Indonesian celebrity bloggers.

It seems that the "official" divorce proceedings to accompany the talaq divorce will happen after Ramadan. Krisdayanti, or KD as she is known, is going to file for divorce. Her husband, Anang Hermansyah, would rather they work through their problems and stay married. Nevertheless, it would appear that KD is committed to ending the marriage this time.

That said, the idea of reconciliation probably requires that both parties play their cards pretty close to their respective chests. Yet, Anang has been pretty open about the reason for the current round of trauma is KD's wandering eye and her seemingly insatiable appetite for affairs with other men. The rumor mill over the last few years has been in overdrive with spottings of KD in all sorts of locales, such as staying in a Singaporean hotel with another man.

Although, the clincher seems to have been the relaying the story of one of those affairs to Anang by one of his own children, Titania Aurelie Hermansyah, who is reported to have said that one day while she was swimming, mummy was in the bedroom with another man. Apparently, this particular affair took place in Bali. It is pretty hardcore taking your kids along for the ride when you are off having an affair.

According to Anang he knows who the Bali squeeze is, but he is not going to tell. Very noble of him. I am not sure that I would be so noble, particularly if the divorce becomes very messy where there are contentious issues such as the custody of children and the division of assets to contend with.

The best quotable moment though is this little pearler from Anang, “I already reminded KD many times: ‘Don’t play with firecrackers if you don’t want to get hurt’, but I guess she didn’t listen.”

The reason for the update is so that I could post another interesting KD or is it CD picture?

Antelope vs. Cheetah & Hyena -- Antelope Wins!

This is an amazing video. It can be found over at Live Leak.

Facebook, Football, and Marriage...

It seems that people seem to think that they can flirt and cheat on Facebook and other social networking sites without being caught out, eventually. This is stupid! As it turns out a dispute about whether Manchester United or Liverpool is the better football team has ended up in the Manchester United fan being framed by his Liverpool counterparts and their Facebook interactions uploaded and displayed for the world to see.

Unfortunately, for the Manchester United fan his wife was able to follow the whole "affair" and decided to end the marriage. The Manchester United fan, Stuart Slann, drove some nine hours and 600km to rendezvous with a mystery woman named Emma that he had arranged to meet through Facebook. Emma, though was the figment of the rival Liverpool fans imagination and was designed from the outset to be a sting.

And stung Stuart was, game and marriage over.

The moral of this story ...

You can work it out!

Cheating...

A few of the blogging colleagues have touched on the cheating partner thing...here is a contribution that I have cut and pasted from here. Hope this helps!

1. He's superprotective of his gadgets. "The main way that trysts are found out is through the discovery of incriminating e-mails, IM chats, cell phone texts or bills," says Belisa Vranich, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in New York City. So if he's being unfaithful, he may guard his gadgets or act really defensive when you innocently touch his phone or computer. It should be a giant red flag if he readily gave you passwords in the past, and now he's more evasive.

2. He steps up the grooming. This is so obvious, but it's a sign many women miss: "If your man starts grooming more without you requesting it, that could be an indication that he's getting intimate with someone else," says Vranich. You can actually thank modern mass media for this tipoff. Guys today are used to viewing manscaped dudes onscreen, so if he has another chick to impress with his appearance, he may emulate those ultra-trimmed guys. Another clue: He's spending more time at the gym.

3. He smells different. "When he comes home, if he doesn't smell the same as he did in the morning, and it isn't the scent of soap in the gym or at your home, it may be because he's showered at her place," offers Vranich. So pay attention, because in this case, that old saying "the nose knows" might very well be true.

4. Nothing fazes him anymore. "If he was short-tempered before, a combination of added intimacy and attention could be making him way more relaxed, even downright giddy," Vranich says. Adds Mira Kirshenbaum, author of "When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships"

5. He becomes suspicious of you. "If he's normally a mellow type, all of a sudden he may want to know where you are all the time and with whom," says Vranich. "It's the result of him realizing that if he's cheating and it's not that hard, you might also be getting away with it." Also, beware of extremely detailed responses to even your most innocent "How was work today?" queries. He may be preparing epic answers because he's terrified of getting caught.

One caveat: If your romantic life hasn't fallen off, that's no guarantee that he's faithful. "It's a serious mistake to think that affairs are necessarily physical. He may just be unhappy in other parts of the relationship," says Kirshenbaum. In fact, an illicit relationship could even stoke his lust for you.

Relationship Enders

These were written by a fella named David Wygant. I do not know who he is and I am too lazy to do an Internet search to find out. These six relationship breakers were written for "daters" but I figure they would apply to married couples as well.

Happy Reading!

1. Prying into private info. If you suspect your partner of betrayal, does that give you the right to start reading your partner's email? To listen to his/her voicemail messages? To hack into his/her online profile? The answer to all of these is "no!" You should never dig through your partner's personal emails or listen to your partner's voicemail messages. You should never dig through your partner's personal emails or listen to your partner's voicemail messages. By doing this, you violate not only your partner's trust, but also the trust your partner has with anyone who left those voice messages and emails.

2. Lying for the greater good. Lying is never good in a relationship, although we've probably all been guilty of doing it. Lying to your partner in an effort to avoid hurting him/her or to avoid confrontation may seem like a wise decision. Regrettably, you will end up digging a deeper hole for yourself when that lie is exposed, which is almost always inevitable. When caught in this situation, you end up hurting your partner anyway, and whatever you were trying to protect your partner from -- by lying to them -- will be even worse because of your deception. I recommend honestly communicating with your partner from the get-go.

3. Pulling a "James Bond." You should never snoop in your partner's private things (drawers, wallet, filing cabinet, or private records -- such as bank or credit card statements). Furthermore, nothing justifies snooping. No matter what you have a "hunch" about, snooping through your partner's things should never be pursued to confirm or deny your hunch. Your partner's possessions and personal records should be kept private unless he/she gives you permission to look at them. Spying on your partner is one of the most blatant violations of your partner's trust and will achieve nothing except having your partner never trust you to be alone near his/her things ever again.

4. Designating yourself "Magnum P.I." Another ill-advised way some people try to verify suspected bad behavior by their partner is to take on the role of private investigator by attempting to "catch their partner in the act" of doing something. Whether this takes the form of searching for your partner's car by driving by his/her house, work, or gym or it takes the form of following your partner in your car, this is something you should never do. Even if you have a convincing hunch that your partner is hiding something from you, stalking is the wrong way to address it. If your partner finds out you've been "tailing him/her" in your car, he/she will no longer trust you.

5. Sending others to do your dirty work. Don't ever send a friend or anyone else to gather information for you about your partner or to spy on your partner for you. This means, don't send a friend to go hang out where you know or suspect your partner will be. Don't have your friend try to eavesdrop on your partner's conversations in places he/she goes. Don't ask your friends to use their cell phone to snap covert pictures of your partner. All of these favors from friends not only violate your partner's trust, but also reveal your total lack of trust in your partner.

6. Checking up constantly. One of the biggest ways to reveal that you don't trust your partner is to manifest that distrust with paranoid and obsessive behavior. While calling your partner regularly is quite normal, calling him/her incessantly to "check up" comes off as obsessive and will drive your partner away. If, for example, your partner is unable to answer his/her phone for a few hours and by the time he/she accesses it he/she discovers you've called 50 times, you not only come off as being paranoid and obsessive, but you clearly communicate to your partner that you distrust him/her. Also, when you panic every time 10 minutes go by without a reply from your partner by a phone call or an email, it sends the exact same message.

Dr. Laura Berman -- The Art of Intimacy

This is something that I stumbled across when I opened Yahoo and I am a sucker for lists! You can find Dr. Berman's blurb and mugshot here. The particular article that I stumbled across was provocatively titled "3 Signs That Your Man Is Cheating".

So, I figured this post would make a good community service announcement for my female readership (I am guessing maybe 3 or 4 of you). This is kind of like my pro bono contribution.

Here goes:

"1. Revived Interest in Appearance: If your partner suddenly undergoes a makeover of sorts, in which he spends much more time on his appearance, it could mean that he is trying to impress someone new. If he all of the sudden ditches his old khakis and sweats for something more stylish, it might be because he is trying to look his best for a new woman.

2. Missing in Action: If there are large periods in which your partner is absent and unaccounted for, it could be because there are mischievous motives behind his AWOL behavior. Whether it is a run to the corner store that takes over an hour, or whether he is constantly "working late," a missing husband could mean something sinister.

3. Mysterious Texts or Phone Calls: If you notice mysterious texts or phone calls on your phone bill, or if your husband tries to hide the phone bill or his cell phone from you, it might mean that there is a new love interest in the rafters. Additionally, if he spends more time on the computer, or tries to hide the screen he was looking at when you walk in the room, this is a good indicator that he might be philandering via the worldwide web."

I do not know that this is anything more than a mere warning sign, if that. Let's face it sometimes things are never as they seem to be. I have always figured that one of the pillars of my marriage was truth. I figure if you want to know, then you ask, you get the answer, and then you move on. No point in dwelling on it and letting the petty jealousies fester into full blown conflict, the war to end all wars!